My partner is abusive. What can I do? [July 24, 2020]
If you're in danger, call 911. If you're not in immediate danger, call VictimLinkBC at 1-800-563-0808 for information about services near you.
If you're afraid for your safety, you can apply for a family law protection order from Provincial or Supreme Court. A protection order can tell the person named in the order:
- to stay away from your home,
- not to contact you, your children, or other family members who might be in danger
It can also say that the police can:
- go with you to your home if you need to get your personal belongings, or
- make the person named in the order leave the family home.
Which court should I use?
To decide what court to bring your application for a protection order, consider the following:
- You already have an open file in Supreme Court or Provincial Court
- Provincial Court does not have any filing fees
- Provincial Court is less complicated to navigate than Supreme Court if you're self-represented (if you don't have a lawyer)
- Both Supreme and Provincial Court will be able to grant you and your children a protection order and can also order the person named in the order to stay away from your home, workplace, school or from stalking you for up to a year
- Only the Supreme Court can make orders dealing with property, such as granting you an order for exclusive occupancy of the family home. This allows you to live in the home and not the other person.
For Provincial Court
To apply, see the step-by-step guide How to apply for a protection order. Also get help from a family lawyer or duty counsel. Duty counsel lawyers and family advice lawyers are available by phone only. For phone numbers and hours of service, please see this list.
For Supreme Court
Get help from a family lawyer or duty counsel. Duty counsel lawyers and family advice lawyers are available by phone only. For phone numbers and hours of service, please see this list.
If I leave my abusive partner, do I have to pay all the remaining rent owing on our apartment lease? [July 8, 2020]
If you are a victim of family violence, you can end your fixed term lease early to protect yourself or your children. To end your tenancy early, you must:
- Complete a form called Ending Fixed Term Tenancy Confirmation Statement.
- Get the form signed by someone who is legally eligible to confirm that you are at risk of family violence. This can be a nurse, doctor, lawyer, social worker, staff member at a transition house, or other authorized third party.
- Give your landlord one month written notice that you are leaving.
- You will still need to pay the one month of rent.
Your abusive partner and anyone else living in the rental unit will have to leave too, unless they start a new tenancy agreement with the landlord.
See the BC government's page about ending a tenancy in special circumstances for more information.
I left my abusive partner, but I don’t have much money and I have bills to pay. How can I get money? [June 25, 2020]
During the COVID-19 pandemic, you may be able to get income support, tax relief, and direct funding. See the list of federal and provincial financial benefits to see what benefits you may be able to apply for.
Financial help is also available for people leaving abusive relationships. You can apply for:
- Income assistance (also called welfare). This is money and other benefits from the BC Ministry of Social Development and Poverty Reduction (the ministry). Call 1-866-866-0800 to apply. Tell them you’re leaving an abusive partner. If you need money right away for food, housing, or medical attention, tell them you have an immediate need and want to apply for hardship assistance. This is emergency money you can get quickly.
- Crime Victim Assistance Program benefits. The BC government pays this money to help victims of crime recover. If you’ve been abused or harassed, you are eligible to apply. Benefits cover things such as lost wages, medical expenses, damaged clothing or eyeglasses, changing locks, and counselling.
- Spousal support. You can apply to ask the court to order your partner to pay you if you separate or divorce. For more information about spousal support, please see our Spousal support page.
- Child tax benefits. This is money the provincial and federal governments pay every month to eligible families to help raise their children.
- The BC early childhood tax benefit is available to families with children under age 6.
- The Canada child benefit is available to eligible families with children under age 18. Call the Canada Revenue Agency to apply: 1-800-387-1193. If you’re already getting welfare but not these benefits, ask the ministry for a top-up (extra money) while you wait for these federal benefits to start. If you get a lump-sum payment of the federal benefits, the provincial benefit amount will be taken off your welfare payment for that month.
To get help and more information about your options, call VictimLink BC at 1-800-563-0808. VictimLink is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
You can also make a claim for compensation for assault if you have a family law case. It can be complicated, so it’s a good idea to get legal advice about this.
For more information and where to get help, please see our publications:
How do I apply for an urgent family law protection order in Provincial Court? [May 5, 2020]
See Protection orders during COVID-19 for how to apply for an urgent family law protection order in Provincial Court now.
What can I do if I want to get a protection order but can’t support myself and my children on my own finances? [May 5, 2020]
If you have your children in your care more than 40 percent of the time, you can apply for child support. You may also be entitled to spousal support.
If you get an order for child and/or spousal support, you can register your order with Family Maintenance Enforcement Program (FMEP) and have them collect the payments for you. It's a free service. See our FMEP page for more information.
What is a safety plan and who can help me make one? [May 4, 2020]
See Safety planning during COVID-19 for an explanation of safety plans, how making a safety plan can keep you safer, and who can help you make one.
Where can I go if I want to leave my abusive partner? [May 4, 2020]
You can go to a shelter or transition house. These are free, temporary places where you and your children can have a safe place to stay and get support services. You can usually stay at a safe home or transition house for up to 30 days.
To find safe housing in your community, see the BC Housing website for a list of contacts for safe homes and transition houses throughout BC. Usually the addresses aren't given out to the general public. This is to protect the people who use them.
Or call BC Society of Transition Houses at 1-800-661-1040 (outside Greater Vancouver) or 604-669-6943 (Greater Vancouver).
My violent partner is being released from custody because of COVID‑19. How can I find out where they will go and if there is anything to control their behavior? [May 1, 2020]
Provincial correctional centre
A person who has less than 30 days left to serve of an intermittent sentence might be released early.
- If there is no probation order, they will be released on a permit with conditions attached. The conditions can restrict where a person can go, who they can see, and what they can do until the permit expires. Call the correctional centre to discuss these conditions, if you have concerns.
- If there is a probation order, the community corrections office where the person is released will contact you to discuss the conditions of the release. Call them if you have concerns.
Federal correctional centre
The Parole Board of Canada will attach conditions for anyone released to parole from the federal system.
How can I get a peace bond or court order to protect me? [April 30, 2020]
You don't need a lawyer to apply for a peace bond (now called a “surety to keep the peace”).
Call the police or RCMP and tell them you're afraid your partner might injure or sexually assault you or your child, and you want a peace bond (the legal name is an “810 recognizance”). In Vancouver, call 911 to get a peace bond even if it isn’t an emergency.
The police and court need evidence of the risk to you. Tell the officer:
- why you feel afraid for yourself or your children, especially about what just happened
- if your partner has:
- been violent to you or other people in the past
- been using alcohol or drugs
- threatened or attempted suicide recently or in the past
- access to weapons such as guns or knives
- if you have other evidence, such as notes about past incidents, threatening letters, voicemails, or online messages, or anyone who saw your partner being violent or threatening you
If the police agree you have a good reason to be afraid, they start the application for a judge to order a recognizance in criminal court. If there's a hearing, someone from the Crown counsel office contacts you.
Make sure you write down the police file number and the officer’s name. If you have questions or concerns, you can then talk to the same officer, who is familiar with you and the case. Your local Crown counsel office can also answer your questions by phone.
What if the police don’t agree to ask Crown counsel to apply for a peace bond? [April 30, 2020]
You might be able to get a protection order under the Family Law Act if you or a child living in your household needs protection from the person you're married to or living in a marriage-like relationship with.
You can consult a lawyer by phone (you may have to pay the lawyer’s fees).
How do I stay safe at home? [April 7, 2020]
Being confined at home with an abusive partner can be very scary. But help is available, and you're not alone.
Make a safety plan
When you're afraid, it's very difficult to think clearly. Getting information and making some planning decisions, including steps you can take to protect yourself, can keep you safe.
A safety plan can help you protect yourself, both at home and outside your home.
You can call VictimLINKBC at 1-800-563-0808 to get information about how to make your plan. If it's safe for you to use a computer, you can follow the Make a safety plan pathway from MyLawBC. You'll answer questions about your situation, and be given resources that can help.
Also see the safety planning resources from EVA BC.
Getting through this time while experiencing abuse can feel really overwhelming. You may feel isolated from your friends and family. Taking time for your own health and wellness can make a big difference in how you feel. Try to keep in touch with family and friends over the phone, text, or email if it's safe for you to do so.
Mental Health Support line: call to be connected to your local BC crisis line without a wait or busy signal, 24 hours a day. Crisis line workers are trained to help provide emotional support as well as mental health information and resources.
310-6789 (do not add 604, 778, or 250 before the number).
Reach out for help
You're not alone. There are organizations who will help, even during this pandemic.
VictimLINKBC: is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual crisis support line available throughout BC. It provides immediate crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence.
1-800-563-0808 (24 hours)
I'm worried that my friend or neighbour is being abused by their partner. How can I help them? [April 7, 2020]
You can’t make decisions for someone else, but you can encourage them to think about their well-being, make a safety plan, and practice self-care while they are in their home. It's also important to keep in touch regularly with your friend or neighbour so they feel less alone.
Try to let your friend know there are resources and people who can help:
VictimLINKBC is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual crisis support line available throughout BC. It provides immediate crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence.
1-800-563-0808 (24 hours)
It might be unsafe for your friend or neighbour to use a computer. If you can get resources to them safely, you could order the free print publication Live Safe, End Abuse. This is a Legal Aid BC publication for people leaving an abusive partner, and includes information on what abuse is, how people can plan for their safety and protect their children, and who can help. It's also available online. If it isn't safe for them to have a print publication, maybe you could talk to them about their options over the phone.
Page last updated: Friday, July 24, 2020, 09:30 hrs
If you're in danger, call 911.
If you're not in immediate danger, call VictimLinkBC at 1-800-563-0808.
VictimLinkBC is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual crisis support line available throughout BC. It provides immediate crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence.
You can also call the Battered Women's Support Service crisis line at 1-855-687-1868.
The Provincial Court FAQs has more information about protection orders.
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