What is a safety plan?
A safety plan is a practical list or plan of the steps you can take to protect yourself and your kids if your partner is abusing you. It will help you stay safer if you decide to stay, or if you decide to leave.
It's a good idea to have a safety plan because it's very difficult to think clearly when you're afraid. Getting information and making some planning decisions before a crisis can keep you safe during a crisis.
Your plan will be detailed, and will cover:
- emergency services in your area, like transition houses
- how you can get help when you need it
- how you can protect yourself at home
- how you can protect yourself if you decide to leave
- how you can protect your kids
Once you've made your safety plan, talk to your kids about how to keep them safe.
How do I make a safety plan?
If you want to make your safety plan yourself, use the Make a safety plan online pathway. It asks you questions about your relationship and gives you an action plan to get the help you need to make a safety plan for you and your family, tailored to your own situation. It will also give you a checklist you can follow to get your safety plan started.
It could be helpful to talk it over with a friend, if you can do so safely.
Making a safety plan during COVID-19
You're not alone, even during the COVID-19 state of emergency. VictimLinkBC can help you make a safety plan tailored your own situation.
They will connect you to people in your area who can help. VictimLinkBC is a toll-free, confidential, and multilingual crisis support line available throughout BC. They are trained victim service workers, and can connect you to the support and services you need.
Ending Violence Association of BC has more information about safety planning and how to make an emergency escape plan.
The publication Live Safe, End Abuse explains what abuse is, and how you can protect yourself and your kids. You can download it as a PDF or order it for free if it's safe for you to get mail. Or you could have it sent to a trusted friend.
If you're in danger, call 911.
If you're not in immediate danger, call VictimLinkBC at 1-800-563-0808.
VictimLinkBC is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual crisis support line available throughout BC. It provides immediate crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence.
You can also call the Battered Women's Support Service crisis line at 1-855-687-1868.