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Section 2: Parenting

Child/children's names:

General guidelines for parenting

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We recognize that it is valuable and important that our children have a loving and supportive relationship with each of their parents.

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We are both responsible for, and will contribute to, the care and upbringing of our children.

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We will try our best to fully cooperate with each other as parents.

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We agree to make decisions that are in our children's best interests and will put their interests ahead of our own.

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No matter where the children are living, we will regularly consult each other and keep each other informed about the children.

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We will find an appropriate way to include our children's views in our discussions.

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We agree that we will communicate politely with each other, and we will not argue in front of the children or involve them in any conflict between us.

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We will both support and foster our children's relationship with the other parent. We will not speak negatively about the other parent. We will encourage our children to spend time with their other parent and their extended family.

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Guardianship

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Party 1 and Party 2 are the guardians of the children, with parental responsibilities and parenting time as set out in this agreement.

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Name is the sole guardian of the children.

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Making decisions

This is how we have agreed to make decisions:

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Day-to-day matters affecting the children, and day-to-day care, control, and supervision of the children — Name

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Where the children will live — Name

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Who the children will live and associate with — Name

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The children's education — Name

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The children's participation in extracurricular activities, including the nature, extent, and location of those activities — Name

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The children's cultural, linguistic, religious, and spiritual upbringing and heritage (including the children's Aboriginal identity) — Name

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Subject to section 17 of the Infants Act, giving, refusing, or withdrawing consent to medical, dental, and other health-related treatments for the children — Name

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Applying for a passport, licence, permit, benefit, privilege, or other thing for the children — Name

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Giving, refusing, or withdrawing consent for the children, if consent is required (for example, for a school trip) — Name

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Receiving and responding to any notice that a parent or guardian is entitled or required by law to receive — Name

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Requesting and receiving from third parties health, education, or other information about the children — Name

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Subject to any applicable provincial laws, starting, defending, compromising, or settling any proceeding related to the children — Name

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Subject to any applicable provincial laws, identifying, advancing, and protecting the children's legal and financial interests — Name

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Subject to any applicable provincial laws, exercising any other responsibilities reasonably necessary to nurture the children's development — Name

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During the time that the children are living with a parent, that parent can make day-to-day decisions about the children and their activities, like homework, bedtime, and chores.

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If we cannot agree about important decisions about the children, differences of opinion will be resolved through:

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Mediation

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The collaborative law process

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A parenting coordinator

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Children's time with parents

Regular parenting schedule

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The children will live alternating weeks with Party 1 and Party 2. If the children are living with Party 1 in a given week, Party 2 will pick the children up on Monday after school, and drop them off at school the following Monday morning.

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The parenting schedule will be on a rotation. The children will stay with Party 1 from Monday after school until Wednesday morning before school. The children will stay with Party 2 from Wednesday after school until Friday before school. The children will then stay with Party 1 from Friday after school until the following Wednesday morning before school. The children will stay with Party 2 from Wednesday after school until the following Monday before school.

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The parenting schedule will be on a two-week rotation. The children will stay with Party 1 from 6pm on Sunday until Tuesday before school. The children will stay with Party 2 from Tuesday after school until Thursday before school. The children will stay with Party 1 from Thursday after school until 6pm the beginning of week 2. The children will stay with Party 2 from 6pm on that Sunday until Tuesday before school. The children will stay with Party 1 from Tuesday of week 2 until Thursday before school. The children will stay with Party 2 from Thursday after school of week 2 until 6pm the following Sunday.

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When a parent's time with the children begins after school, that parent is responsible for picking them up at school. When a parent's time ends on a school morning, they are responsible for dropping them off.

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The children will live primarily with Name. Name will have generous parenting time with the children as follows:

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Monday:

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Tuesday:

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Wednesday:

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Thursday:

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Pickup and drop-off

This clause is automatically included.

Each parent is responsible for driving child/children's names to and from activities, including school, during their parenting time.

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If it is not possible for Party 1 or Party 2 to pick up or drop off the children as provided for in the parenting schedule, the parent who is responsible for the pickup or drop-off may authorize another person who the children know to pick them up or drop them off.

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If it is not possible for Party 1 or Party 2 to pick up or drop off the children as provided for in the parenting schedule, the following people may pick up or drop off the children:

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Vacations, holidays, and special days

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Travel

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Party 1 and Party 2 must both agree to the children travelling outside .

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Each of us will permit the children to travel outside of Canada with the other parent for vacation purposes. Each of us will sign a travel authorization within 14 days of being asked by the other parent. Neither of us will withhold travel authorization unreasonably.

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Name agrees to safeguard the children's passport in their possession and agrees to provide it/them to Name on request.

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The parent asking to travel with the children will pay the fees to have the travel authorization notarized.

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The parent who travels with the children will get travel insurance for the duration of the time away, or will be solely responsible for any costs that would have been covered under a standard travel insurance policy.

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